Finding the One
If you want to know the best way to approach finding the one, listen to the wise words of the Bard. “Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow.” In other words, Moderation is key. It keeps you from moving too quickly or too slowly when you’re getting to know new men and what they bring to your table. In my experience as a Love Mentor, the most powerful way to achieve moderation is by using the Dating Program of Three. And therefore, it’s the best way to find the One.
The Program of Three is exactly the opposite of the urban legend “three-date rule,” which dictates that you must decide by the third date if a guy is the potentially the One and have sex. Or risk losing him forever. On this dating program, you avoid that pressured decision and its aftermath. The deadly-dating pattern called the Flame Out that usually kills the relationship. Instead you date three men at the same time without having sex with any of them. By not seeing any one man too often, you find the men who are really into you. And who will stay the course. Plus, you break out of your prison of deadly dating patterns and maneuver more skillfully in the dating world. By following this program, you build your self-esteem and find men that are much more fulfilling.
I Know this Program Sounds Impossible
The idea of finding the One by juggling, three guys may sound challenging if not downright impossible! Let me reassure you: it has worked for thousands of women. And it won’t be difficult for you once you begin using all the tools you’ll learn here.
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