“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
Harriet Beecher Stowe
Some days are light and filled with inspiration. Some days are simply routine.
And on some days you may think to yourself: “I give up”.
You may feel like just giving up on…
- Your new habit of working out or eating healthier.
- Your own small business or blog because you haven’t had the results you expected or wanted.
- Truly feeling better about yourself.
- Dating because you can’t seem to find the right person or maybe even have a good date at all.
Winding up in such situations is a normal part of making positive changes in life.
But what you do when you feel like giving up will determine a lot about where your life will go.
In today’s article I’d like to share 10 things that have helped me to hold on or to change direction on those difficult days.
1. Tap into realistic expectations.
This one has been very important to me.
Tap into realistic expectations not by listening to advertising that promises you quick results. Not by listening to the perfectionism – from the people around you or yourself – that allows no mistakes or failures.
Tap into it by listening to the people who have already gone where you want to go.
Listen to the people who know what works and how you will stumble and fail along the way and can tell you how long your journey may take.
You'll probably not get an exact blueprint. But the things people can tell you in person or via books and blogs can be a great guidance.
2. Remind yourself why you are doing this.
It’s easy to lose the big picture in the busy everyday life.
But if you feel like giving up then try reconnecting with why you are doing what you are doing.
Maybe it is to:
- Support and keep your family safe.
- Live healthier and longer so you get to watch your kids grow up.
- See the world and explore new things.
Write your answers down.
Then, whenever you feel like giving up pull out that piece of paper with your most powerful why(s). It often helps.
3. Remember: It’s darkest before the dawn.
This thought has helped me to hold on when things have felt very difficult and I felt like giving up and going home. Because I have found it to be true.
When things seemed to be at the lowest point with my blog and business, with my dating life or with my motivation in life in general something always happened.