How To Get a Guy To Like You: What Men Love

How to Get a Guy to Like You: The Psychology of Men in Love

You may be seriously interested in a new man you met socially or through a digital connection, but you wonder, how to get a guy to like you?  No matter how old you are, whether you are in your 30s,40s, 50s or 60s, you may still be wondering about this question. Dating is often like being in high school all over again!  Because, no matter what age you are, it is still very hard to understand the whole secret psychology of men in love.

First of all, let me be clear on one thing—you can’t make anyone like or love you.  It is either there or it isn’t. But you can optimize the chances that the magic will happen.  In our vast experience working with tens of thousands of single women we have found five great ways to allow a guy to see your real, best self and to get chemistry going. and after you read the post, be sure to watch the video on how to get a guy to like you.

How to Get a Guy to Like You-Tip #1: First You Have to Like Yourself.

You have to like yourself and feel confident first and foremost. This simple truth bears repeating! Liking yourself is key because it allows you to relax, be real and have fun! Everyone is interesting when they are real, because they can be fully present, playful, self-expressed, funny and flirty. You can share your own unique humor, your cute little gestures, your amusing quirks, and your true warmth.

In fact, liking yourself helps the guy you are interested in to be relaxed and have fun with you too.  He will feel good around you and have a great time. He can truly appreciate you and to choose to be with you.  When you ask men why they chose to marry their wives, they most often say, because I feel good around her!

The Diamond Self Process and Liking Yourself

Of course, liking yourself may be hard if you are feeling anxious and shy around the guy to begin with! This is where what I call the Diamond Self work comes in.  You can access true self confidence by working on yourself at the level of identity. Recent research shows that there is no such thing as a fixed structure in the brain that represents self!  The “I” or personal identity you think is permanent is actually a process in your neural network that is always in flux. Joe Dispenza, a researcher, describes the process:

You are a work in progress. The organization of brain cells that makes up who you are is constantly in flux.  Forget the notion that the brain is static, rigid and…

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