Do you ever wonder what the heck is going on with men and relationships? Tired of all their confusing signals? One minute they want you, the next they seem ambivalent and distant.
And, we’re supposed to be mysterious!
Through my work as a therapist and clinical supervisor of other individual, couple, and family therapists, I’ve heard just about every issue single, married, and divorced guys have when it comes to what men really want in relationships. Those countless hours have given me a unique understanding into what men really want in a partner.
Are you ready for it? Watch the video as I share my first-hand insights! Then read on below for five more tips.
So, as I said in the video, what men want has little to do with your waist-hip ratio, your looks, or even what underwear you’re wearing. Here are five more insights and tips to help you create a deep connection with your guy.
1. Men want to feel good and successful around you
Men want to be with a woman who is happy and enjoying herself. Like I mention in the video, the happier you are and the more you’re enjoying yourself with him, the more successful and connected he feels to you. He takes credit for it. Your happiness is his happiness! And, even if he really hasn’t done anything in particular to bring you happiness in that moment, he instinctively knows that he has the power to please you.
Yet, if you’re not happy, he feels like he’s failed. In fact, believing they can’t please a woman is one of the biggest reasons men won’t commit.
This is why it’s so crucial for you to create happy life for yourself, whether you’re single or in a relationship.
Make things fun when you’re with him. Be spontaneous and playful! Lightly tease and flirt with him. And, make sure you’re also doing things to make yourself happy outside of your relationship.
2. Men crave appreciation and validation
Men want to please you. In many ways, psychologically you become the symbol of the all-important mother to your guy. Your opinion becomes more important than any other person. So, let him know he’s your hero. Tell him what you love about him and appreciate everything he does.
Next time you see your guy, make it a point to appreciate and validate. It could be something as simple as: “I love the way you make me laugh!” or, “You always plan the best dates.”
3. Men want to provide for you
Now, I’m not advocating that we step back in time where men were the financial providers in relationships….