“Certain flaws are necessary for the whole. It would seem strange if old friends lacked certain quirks.”
Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
“People throw away what they could have by insisting on perfection, which they cannot have, and looking for it where they will never find it.”
One of the most common challenges that people email me about – and I myself have had quite a bit of trouble with – is perfectionism.
It's an issue that can hold you back in life. Not only from achieving and finishing what you want.
But sometimes from even getting started. While at the same time draining your self-esteem and getting you stuck in a negative spiral where it can become harder and harder to start moving forward.
So today I'd like to share 6 things that have helped me – and still helps me to this day – with this destructive and distracting thought habit.
1. Go for good enough.
Aiming for perfection usually winds up in a project or something else never being finished.
So go for good enough instead.
Don't use it as an excuse to slack off. But simply realize that there is something called good enough and when you are there then you are finished with whatever you are doing.
So find a balance for yourself where you do good work and don’t slack off but at the same time don’t get lost in trying to improve and polish something too much.
How to find that balance? I have found my own balance through trial and error and experience.
2. Realize that you hurt yourself and the people around you by buying into myths of perfection.
By watching too many movies, listening to too many songs and just taking in what the world is telling you it is very easy to be lulled into dreams of perfection.
It sounds so good and wonderful and you want it.
But in real life it clashes with reality and tends to:
- Cause much suffering and stress within you and in the people around you.
- Harm or possibly lead you to end relationships, jobs, projects etc. just because your expectations are out of this world.
I find it very helpful to remind myself of these simple facts.
Whenever I get lost in a perfectionist headspace I remind myself that it will cause me and my world harm.
And so it becomes easier to switch my focus and thoughts because I want to avoid making destructive choices and avoid causing myself and the people closest to me unnecessary pain.
3. Accept that you are human and so are everyone else.
Set human standards for everyone and accept that life is like that.
Everything and everyone has…