Dearest Reader, Are you suffering with relationship frustrations?
You are not alone. Here’s how Jean from Philly described her relationship frustrations and disappointments:
We are not married but have lived together for about 5 years.After the first year, we started having a lot of arguments mainly about clutter (I tend to collect things). A few times I promised to get rid of some clothes and things (I really should) but never did. The reason for that is that I always felt he cared more about the house than me. It wounded me.
I realize now that was wrong. Since the first fights also there was zero happening in the bedroom. When I approached him a few times, he said he didn’t want to do it. I just kind of turned off that whole aspect. A month ago he suddenly said he wanted me to move out. We had some more arguments. During one of our fights I asked him if there was another woman and he said yes. I even told him that I would be willing to forgive that. I am just beside myself and don’t know what to do.
Jean is Stuck in the “Crumbs” Deadly Dating Pattern.
In this pattern you are involved with a guy who does not provide for your needs. In Jean’s case, her live-in boyfriend was not being intimate with her and not being interest in sex. Ultimately, he turned to another woman. Yet, she stayed in an ultra-accepting and giving mode. Hoping that at some point her love and caring would turn him around.Instead he moved FARTHER away from her and became more and more EMOTIONALLY DISTANT.
The Crumbs pattern is very common and pretty much guaranteed to do the opposite of what you hope for–instead of drawing your man in, it pushes him away!Talk about relationship frustrations!
When Jean signed up for a free 40-minute mentoring session, her dating coach pointed out her Crumbs Deadly Pattern Pattern. The Love Mentor showed her that she deserved so much more. I’m happy to say that Jean moved on and is now with a terrific guy.
If you like Jean suffer from a Crumbs pattern you may be involved with a guy (maybe married or a hot irresistible player) who sees you occasionally and only when it works in his schedule. If you pay close attention you may see that he is a flaming narcissist, who does not seem to know that anyone outside of himself really exists. He may go through the motions, but fundamentally is not really interested in who you are in your life.
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