In this article, we talk about her body language signs she likes you.
Has this ever happened to you? You've been hanging out with a girl you're into her, and you think she's totally into you. Then one day you decide to make your move, and she tells you she just wants to be friends. And you're completely blindsided. Your ego is totally bruised.
You wonder how you could have gotten so completely wrong. Wasn't she flirting with you? Um, no she wasn't. For women, the line between flirty and friendly is very very very thin. So I totally get how you can miss it when you're flirting with a woman. She's flirting back you make a move and then am she tells you she's just friendly. So how the hell are you supposed to know when she's flirting with you for fun and when she's flirting with you for more. Before I dive in and answer this for you, there are two really important things for you to know about women.
The number one thing is women can flirt for fun. Women can flirt with you even if they don't want anything more from you. It's true; we don't have to have a sexual reason for flirting with you. I flirt for fun all the time.Body Language Signs She Likes YouClick To Tweet
Number two, women actually believe that men and women can be friends. Which means you may have the intention of approaching her because you want to date or sleep with or be with her, but her intention is simply friendship. Just because she likes you doesn't mean she's attracted to you. See, there's a difference.
When a girl is really flirting with you, and once more she'll give you the extras. Let's call them extras. extra-long eye contact extra touches she'll try to get into extra-long conversations with you or find excuses to hang out with you alone and spend extra time with you. She'll find ways to show you she's open to something more.
For example agreeing to your plans. Responding to your texts or calls promptly with more than a lol. If she's friendly, she won't give you the extras she'll just give you the basics. She'll be nice even physically affectionate. She'll hang out with you on her terms that's it. If you text her about getting together on Thursday night at a great little wine bar, you just found, and she responds back to you on Friday. Totally just saw this. Sorry I missed out. Maybe next time. Hope you had a fun time. So annoying right?
I know some guys would think cool, she said maybe next time. But these guys have fallen victim to the flirty for a fun girl. These girls will continue to do this over and over and over again. Also, if a girl isn't feeling it, but thinks you are she'll give you less than the basics to make sure that you get the message. So for example, she'd be polite. Maybe even proper with you. She'll give you platonic hugs or hold off from touching you. She won't try to get you alone. She may even talk to you about other guys she's interested in. Which, if nothing else has gotten the message across from her point of view and she'd drive it home for you that she's not interested.
I know you may think that these behaviors are tested, but they're definitely not tests or signs to pursue harder. They are signs that she's not into you now. These are guidelines. Remember that each woman is different and has their own individual baseline for how she acts with guys.
You want to get to know her so you can figure out her baseline. If she's super affectionate with all of her guy friends a hug from her is not an indication that she wants you. If she's comfortable around her other guy friends, but then gets really shy and blushy around just you then you can take that as a sign that you have a certain effect on her. Find out her norm so you can see where you fall on her spectrum.
I recently had a guy friend reveal his feelings for me. I was a bit surprised, and I thought he could tell by my signs that I wasn't into him. I even suspected that he was attracted to me, so I tried extra hard to get the message across. Giving him less than the basics, but still, he told me he was sure there was something between us. Because of how I connect with him in conversation. How I'm so sweet to him and laugh at all of his jokes. My friend did not pay attention to my baseline. I laugh at a lot of people's jokes.
He had a serious case of tunnel vision he only took what he wanted from our interactions, never paying attention to my signs. I didn't make plans with him alone. I would tell him about other guys I was in or seeing. I didn't give him extra affection. The list goes on, and I'm not kidding.
By learning the signs that women give you, getting out of your tunnel vision and being aware of her signs you will have the upper hand and avoid these sticky situations.
So stop wasting time on someone who doesn't want you. Be a savvy sign reader, and you'll find someone who does.
Tags: body language, friend zone, what women want