Personal Development Books

Our 5 Best Personal Development Books To Get Yourself Growing

“Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.” ~Jim Rohn

What's up! It's your girl Sheila Murray and today I'm going to be sharing my 5 best personal development books for personal growth.

These books are my favorite books to help you forgive. Help you get to know yourself better. Shift your paradigm and just overall be extra lit. Because it's 2017 we got to be lit.

I did a post like this before on periscope where I listed nine books but I'm gonna keep this short. If you're interested I will link to the longer version of this talk so you can get the full list of the nine books. I'm going to try to go from easy to more difficult in this one to five. So one is the easiest, and five being the most difficult to kind of grasp and understand.

Because I know some of these concepts are new to people and sometimes shifting your paradigm can be like, wait. What?

So I try to take it easy and go from easy to more difficult.

Personal Development Book #1
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

Almost anyone that I know that is in into self-help and are like personal development junkies like myself this book is always like a jumping off point. It's always one of the first ones you read. The thing that I love about this book is that it's short and it's very direct.

It offers a huge shift in paradigm through these four agreements or rules to live by:
1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don't take anything personally.
3. Don't make assumptions, and…
4. Always do your best.

It's simple. I mean seriously though this book will change the way you think about a lot of things. I find myself quoting these four rules all the time. I read this book five years ago now. So this is a dope one.

Personal Development Book #2
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo.

I like this book because a lot of the things that I recommend always work from the inside out. So we're healing ourselves from the inside out. We're thinking about forgiveness and all of these things. It's about changing your mind and your soul. Always from the inside out. That's intimidating to some. Some people just don't think that deep.

I like this book because this book illustrates a lot of the same principles that are in all of these other books. All these books really speak to each other but it does it from the outside in. So this is a female Japanese writer. It's based on some function suppose adjusting your living situations so that you invite the most joy into your life. When I read this book I got rid of 70% of everything that I owned. And I never felt freer. I never felt lighter. Not only that, I got rid of a lot of stuff that I just didn't know why I still had it.

Then after that, I realized I have fewer things but they're higher quality and I care about them more. So this book gets at your emotional attachment to things and kind of how you can arrange your physical surroundings to best reflect the kind of inner world that you want. Everything she tells you to pick up, and you know everything in your house and ask one question does this bring you joy. Not like all, but my boyfriend gave it to me in sixth grade.

I can't be like this was my mom's grandma's auntie's. No. You pick it up and you know what joy feels like. I feel joy when I get Chick-fil-a. I feel joy when I sit down in front of tiramisu. You don't need anyone to explain to you what that is. So you pick up something and I'm like if it doesn't bring me joy it goes. It was as simple as that. I know it sounds ruthless but please read the book and it'll become more clear.

Personal Development Book #3
A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson.

Danielle, I want to apologize for never giving you your book back. I love you. This book I love. It's basically her reflections on a course in miracles absurd action and it's basically her reflections on principles.

She argues that everyone is born from love. We're all made from love, but we are conditioned out of it. And sometimes we forget that we are actually all made of love. So this book is all about returning to the love that we are. It's based on a lot of principles that you'll find in Christianity and she mentions the Holy Spirit. For any of my tribe who identifies as Christian, this book is nice, because it will complement what you're already doing.

Marie Williamson is an amazing writer. This is the beginning but please if you like this check out her other books. I am actually listening to the audiobook of Divine Compensation right now and it's mind-blowing. It's great.

Personal Development Book #4
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

All right this is a big one. This book changed the way I thought about relationships. I got this book from my therapist in college and I was like I don't need a therapist. Like you know I'm just doing this because I'm here and you know I was all salty about being in therapy. I was like heartbroken over this guy who broke my heart in college. I was over here feeling myself. Just feeling so like having the biggest pity party ever and she said you know what you might be codependent.

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You should read this book. I'm like what's codependent? Oh, the book for people who love too much right? So the idea with codependency is that you don't believe that you're good enough. So you feel that you have to give not like an adequate healthy amount of love to somebody, but overly. Like you love someone too much.

You give too much and then when you give all that you could give, plus some that you didn't have to give you expect the person's behavior to change. When their behavior doesn't change because we can't control other people. A person will only change if they want to. So when you do all these things, you're jumping through all these hoops trying to prove your love to this person and their behavior doesn't change in the way that you want. This is a slight manipulation tactic. Even though we don't know it.

The book illustrates how the cycle of codependency works so you can understand the victim, perpetrator triangle. Where there's no healing. It's just flipping roles back and forth. I think this book is particularly good for a lot of women. Men can also suffer from codependency but overwhelmingly it's for women. It helped me to figure out what is a healthy standard for love and that I don't have to earn it. I don't have to manipulate someone else to love me. I am already worthy of being loved.

Personal Development Book #5
Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping

So, last but not least is Radical Forgiveness. This is the most difficult book out of all of them to understand.

If there's any book that will give you that will shit like rub up against your beliefs and probably trigger you it will be this book. This book also speaks to everything that we've said today. Every one of these books they speak to each other for sure but this one to me had the most profound effect on me of probably any book that I've ever read.

Radical Forgiveness is a revolutionary five-step process to heal relationships, let go of anger and blame, and find peace in any situation. It basically describes a different way of looking at forgiveness. Most of us operate with traditional forgiveness.

Alright, so I hope you enjoyed these personal development books. I hope you read them. I hope you grow.

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